I'm just a little frustrated today. Have you ever thought life was just not fair? I am seeing that more and more. I don't understand when people believe the worse in someone without taking the time to find out the truth. I also don't understand how a name.....a family name....can be more important than truth. How can punishments be decided based on name rather than on justice? I've see this kind of thing on TV and thought....wow, that wouldn't really happen....but it does. Unfortunately my baby is caught in the middle of such an event. Her word against another's, but that person has a name to back him/her up. So, my baby gets the book thrown at her and the other gets a slap on the wrist. Just doesn't seem fair....does it?
So, what's a mom to do? We advised her to be truthful. Tell the truth. Don't cover for someone else. Accept your consequences, and don't beg. Take responsibility and trust the system. Yea right! She tells the truth and since the other person lied...and has a name....they believed that version instead of her's. Actually, telling the truth HURT her. If she had lied and gone with the story already told, she would have gotten off easy, but since we wanted her to be truthful, she got the harshest punishment available.
So, again, what am I to do? Do I fight this for her? I know she did wrong. She should have consequence, but should her's been more harsh than the other involved? Should she pay for both of them just because she told the truth?????? UGH! This really ticks me off. Do I just tell her "life isn't fair" and let her take her punishment and the other get off scott free?
I'm angry and sad and frustrated and just flat out ticked off! I'm disappointed in her and wonder what happened to her brain when she chose to be stupid for a day! I know, that sounds harsh and I am just venting. My child is precious and has a heart of gold. She tried to help someone, the wrong kind of help, and got in trouble for it. She was not out partying or breaking any law. She wasn't messing around or living wildly. She just made a bad choice and is being treated like a horrible person.
I am proud of my baby girl. She stood up and took responsibility. She told the truth, even when it could/did mean she would be treated harshly. She risked the so-called friend being mad at her for ratting him/her out. She stood up and faced the music and is accepting the consequence. She is a good girl and does not deserve what she is getting. I just keep believing that what goes around, comes around. I want to be a fly on the wall when her friend finally has to face the lies that have been told at her expense. I'm still trusting that vengeance is the Lord's and I will not have to take this in to my own hands! Life just isn't fair!
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This is a tough one. I think that it is best to let her know that she did the right thing by telling the truth - even though the punishment is not "fair" it is what it is. We went through a lot of this with my brother when he was in school too - you know at that particular time if you were not involved in athletics you were toast! He was punished harshly while the others just had to run laps and "let the coaches deal with them" One point I wanted to share with you that I had to witness was that my mother was put in your position several times with him (I guess he had to learn this lesson more than once!) In the situation mentioned above she had enough of the discrimination and she went to the school board to fight the punishment - he did fess up and he did deserve to be punished - but they all needed to be punished the same - you know that whole "equality" thing. It did not work in her favor - BUT she says to this day she is glad that she stood up for her child and what she believed to be the right thing to do. She immediatley withdrew him from that school and home schooled him! She tells me all of the time to stand up for DQ at school as long as it is for the RIGHT reasons. I just thought I would share that experience with you as maybe an encouragement. Mom would be better at telling all of this - you know where to find her??
Loves to YOU!
Amy Q
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